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If men were the ones lying awake next to their partners at 2 in the morning, the sleep industry would look completely different.

There would already be a fix. There would be studies. It would be sold at Costco.

Instead we get a matte black candle called Rest and another gummy with melatonin buried in the third position of the ingredient list.

I am 27. I have been lying awake next to my sleeping boyfriend since I was 22. My boyfriend Jules is asleep in five minutes. His head touches the pillow and he is gone. I lie there and watch the ceiling until two in the morning. Then I fall asleep for four hours. Then I wake up when his alarm goes off and I have already been half awake for an hour.

You know this if you live with someone who sleeps easy and you don't.

At 22 it was annoying. At 25 I was buying magnesium powder. At 27 it was the reason I cried on my birthday.

The last one is not a bit. I turned 27 in April. Jules and I went out with friends. We got home at one in the morning. He was asleep in the bathroom brushing his teeth. I mean that literally. He sat on the edge of the tub to floss and closed his eyes. I helped him into bed and he was gone. I lay there until the sun came up and I cried into the pillow so I would not wake him. I was 27. I had been awake for 22 hours. I still could not sleep.

Here is what I had already tried by then.

Melatonin. I took it in college. It gave me nightmares so vivid I was afraid of falling asleep. A friend said oh yeah that happens. I stopped.

Magnesium powder. The one in a pink pouch that everyone drinks now. It made me sleepy for twenty minutes and then I was awake again.

Weighted blanket. Hot. Heavy. Woke up sweating.

Sleep meditation app. I fell asleep during the meditation and woke up when the voice said good night. Twenty minutes of sleep. Then awake again.

Chamomile. Sleepytime tea. Valerian. Blue light glasses. Lavender pillow spray. Silk pillowcase. Sleep tracker ring. The sleep tracker ring is not a sleep aid. It is a device that tells you the next morning that you did not sleep. I know I did not sleep. I was there.

I read a post on a forum at some point from a woman who said the only thing everything on the shelf at the pharmacy had done was empty her wallet. I saved it.

Here is what I figured out, six months and probably eight hundred dollars later.

Every one of those things is trying to do the same job.

Melatonin tells your body it is nighttime. Magnesium relaxes your muscles. Meditation apps calm your nervous system. Herbal teas are mild sedatives. Weighted blankets add pressure that lowers cortisol. Every single one of them is a way to make you more sedated.

I do not need to be more sedated.

I am tired. I am extremely tired. That is the problem. My body is exhausted and my nervous system will not catch up.

Jules and I have the same schedule. We eat the same food. We drink the same water. We are in the same bed under the same blanket in the same room at the same temperature. The reason he sleeps and I do not is not that he is more relaxed than I am. He has the same nervous system I do. His just down-regulates at eleven. Mine does not down-regulate until two.

The sleep industry has spent fifteen years selling women more and more elaborate ways to be more tired. They were selling me more of the one thing I already had plenty of. They were not solving the problem. They were adding to it.

A stylist I work with mentioned Tryluvre in the studio one afternoon in July. She has two kids and she said she stopped waking up at three. I asked what was in it and she pulled up the ingredient list on her phone.

Magnesium. GABA. L-Tryptophan. Tart cherry. Passionflower. Chamomile. Wild jujube. Hops. All named on the label with the doses printed next to them.

No melatonin. That was the first thing I looked for.

I read that night for four hours. GABA is what your nervous system uses to quiet itself. Your body makes it. Some nervous systems make less of it or use it slower. L-tryptophan is what the body turns into what it uses to hold sleep. Magnesium in a form the body can actually absorb is a cofactor for both of them. The plants are calming without being sedating. The whole stack works on the hold side of sleep, not the get sedated side.

I asked my doctor at my next check in. She said the stack was reasonable and to try it and change nothing else and give it six weeks.

I ordered a three-pack that night. They came with a weighted sleep mask that I use, a written ritual guide I did not read, and a thirty-night sleep reset I did not read either. Free shipping.

You take one gummy about thirty minutes before bed. That is it. Thirty seconds. Tastes like cherry.

Day 1. Nothing.

Day 5. I was asleep before Jules on a Tuesday. He came to bed and I was already out. He told me the next morning. That had not happened in a year.

Day 14. I woke up when his alarm went off instead of at four. Same alarm. Same time. First morning we had woken up at the exact same time in months.

Day 21. I did not check the sleep tracker ring in the morning. I forgot.

Day 28. Jules told me he had tried one when I was in the shower two weeks earlier. He had been taking one every night since. He said he slept even better on them and could I stop hiding them from him.

Now we share. I bought a second jar for him. He takes his from the bathroom cabinet.

Your nervous system is not broken. It just does not down-regulate on the same schedule as his does. You do not need to be more tired. You do not need another blanket. You do not need another pink pouch of magnesium powder.

You need something that supports the layer that holds you under after you get there.

That is a real category. It has just not been sold at you.

I do not know for certain that this gummy was the reason things changed for me. I know I had tried a long list of other things and none of them worked. I know I added this one and things changed. I know Jules stole them.

Tryluvre has a thirty-night money-back guarantee. The company sends the jar back to itself if it does not work for you. They have a 4.9 star rating from over four thousand customers.

If you are 25 or 35 and you live with someone who sleeps and you don't, and you are tired of being sold candles and gummies with melatonin hidden in them, this is worth thirty seconds a night for thirty nights.

If it does not work, you send back the jar.

I want to tell you what happened. I am not going to make a claim about what caused what. I am going to tell you what came back in what order.

The first week nothing dramatic. I still woke up at 2am on Monday. I still woke up at 2:15 on Wednesday.

The second week I slept until 4:30 on a Thursday. I noticed because David's alarm goes off at 5:15 and I woke up when he got out of bed. I had not slept past 2am consecutively in over a year.

The third week I made brunch on Sunday. I called Jamie and told her I was making pancakes and she and Ollie drove up.

P.S. Jules ordered his own three-pack last week. He gave me the sleep mask because I already had one. The mask is actually good.